Refuse to let yourself and others define you by your past. This thing called the past that comprises of actions, events, memories, emotions, good times, bad times, etc. is nothing more than a temporary state of being. That’s it – it is all temporary and a figment of your imagination stored as memory.
You can’t hold the past in your hand. You can’t sense the past. That’s why it is called the past – it is gone, its history. What once was, is now not what it is. Time is moving but the truth is that you are on the timeline moving along with time, not against it. You can only reflect on it but it doesn’t really mean anything.
Release yourself from the pain of what occurred a second ago, a minute ago, an hour ago or days ago. I have noticed that we continuously beat ourselves up measuring our current situation with the past putting ourselves in an endless cycle of despair. Don’t compare your current situation with the past – there is no comparison.
It’s sadly people that remind us of our past – you may reminisce about an event that occurred when you were younger in the presence of others. Your parents will remind you about behaviors you practiced in the past that are irrelevant today such as hobby you may have had. You spouse or significant other will remind you about a past action you had taken that had a negative impact on the relationship so you don’t repeat it in the future.
These tortuous memories are brought forth by the actions of man, not you. Don’t let it get inside your head. Focus on the truth – what is happening now. News that occurred a split second ago is old news and irrelevant. The only thing of relevance is this current time and how you are feeling now in the immediate situation, not what happened in the past.
Don’t confine yourself to a state of stress or anxiety that are brought forth by others. This is all temporary. Let’s get a few things straight:
- Everything is temporary: Take anything like the food you consumed yesterday – is it here today? What about what you weighed at the Age of 2 – do you still weight that now? What about the rainy weather yesterday and sunny day today? What about what you read on this blog post just seconds ago and what you are reading now? Everything is gone, destroyed – there is no such thing as the past. It’s all history.
- The only thing permanent is the essence of You: Some people may call it your soul or your spirit. I like to think of it as your consciousness that makes you do things that you are not even aware of – blinking eyes, heartbeat, breathing. These things are happening to you right now as they are the most relevant – sight, spirit, energy – and you are not even aware of it . It’s just happening naturally.
- You are not traveling against time but along with it. You have always been surfing the wave, not crashing against it. You have never wiped out. This is just your mind playing tricks with you. Everything that has happened to you has happened because it was always intended to be that way. Your focus, failures and success were always there. You never created this – you discovered it and seized the opportunity whether it lead to something positive or negative.
Realize everything is not meant to last.
Look at your life. Do you move around or sit in one place? Do you have a variety of friends or just one person you hang out with? Friends change, family members pass away, you will age, transformations in your body will happen. People, animals, plants all change and transform. This is the way it was always intended to be. Nothing is static. All is dynamic.
Enjoy what you have right now as it may not be here tomorrow. Just focus on being good and doing good. Seize the moment now as it is. Keep the future and past in perspective, but realize real life occurs in real time according to your terms and not the terms of others. Don’t ever think that your state of being is going to be static. Don’t succumb to other peoples beliefs that you current state is your past state. It never was – life’s dynamic force has transformed you to who you really are – and has done this in real time.