Rejection sucks.
You know it. I know it – and there is nothing we can really do about it but accept it.
The truth is that both receiving and communicating a “no” from and to someone are actually gifts that we give ourselves that we may not realize. Remember, this is all about you at the end. What messages you send to others and what messages you receive from others is all about impact to you.
What’s hidden in this two letter word is actual the symbolism of another two letter word with the same letters – the word “on.”
We have the power to say “no” to anyone and anything we want. This life is our life. If we don’t like something there is nothing that is forcing us to say “yes” to anything that we don’t want.
Circumstances generally drive our decision-making power.
As an independent consultant I get many job opportunities from companies and recruiters who think job opportunities may be a fit for me. However, I need to analyze many things in order to make a decision such as my relationship with the company, length of project, types of client and of course pay.
I can’t possibly accept every offer I get as it may not be the best fit for me.There have been countless times that I have had to say “no” to opportunities even if they paid well just because I didn’t think it was the fit right with me.
We can say “no” to marriage. We can say “n”o to our partner. We can even say “no” to our boss or teacher. What this just means is that we want to be “on” to something else – something better.
Getting a “no” can probably be the best thing that can happen to you. Getting rejection is never a bad thing as these are just indications that you should be “on” to something else – something better.
Saying “no” is also the best decision you can make as it helps you focus “on” those things that are most relevant to you.
In life, there are always second, third and forth opportunities. Your first opportunity will never be same as the second or third. All opportunities are different. Saying “no” to someone for a second date is ok. Saying “no” to a friend or family members is ok. Saying “no” to your boss if it goes beyond the call of duty is ok.
There will always be an infinite number of opportunities for you to move “on” to.
No one can force you to act a certain way in life. Moving “on” is the ultimate joy in life that is to be discovered – the gift of receiving and giving a “no” is the start of that journey.