Why is it that every time we get close to something we really want, that it simply slips away?
Why does it seem like the relationship you may have with someone that once was great and very close, now seems like you are miles apart?
Why do we constantly change our minds when things fail and don’t go our way?
There is something so common in the answer to these questions that can’t be overlooked – what may seem like togetherness or one whole is actually something comprised of little things that divide the whole and hence make it difficult to even see the whole.
Confused? Yep! It’s meant to be. Let’s get blunt here – it’s human nature to discover your true self, independent of anyone or anything relative to you. As long as individuality dominates our mind, the concept of togetherness is simply an illusion.
Let’s get a little more clear here by what we mean by togetherness as this is relative term. Let’s look at the three examples in my questions to dissect this further. Could it be that the answer to the first question is that because we desired something so badly that it is the reason why our expected end-state slipped away? Could it be that we like to control what we want in a relationship and that is what forces it to drift apart? Could it be that we don’t really know how to accept failure, that we get frustrated and walk away from our dreams?
Our mind loves to play tricks on us. It fools us into thinking that there really is no such thing as the word ever-lasting. We want everything to be lasting – our love, our relationships, our parents, our home, anything.
Let’s take love. If it is meant to last – you may think your love is sustained, but is it? Do you fight? Do you argue? If so, love is not sustained – it takes breaks every now and then. What about parents? Do you get along with them? Do you live with them? Do you argue with them? Will they live forever? If so, even your relationship with parents or parents themselves are not sustainable. In any situation where you think you are attached to something the illusion of sustainment is mixed in with the truth of temporary division.
In other words, as long as your wanting-ness is there for something to behave or be in a certain way or be in control of a situation, it is destined to break apart. This is the Law of Division as I see it – and who establishes the Law? We do.
If you are expecting the lights on the road to be green so you can go – guess what? It will turn red and you will have to stop. If you have the wanting-ness to change your partner to conform to your sense of style – you will create friction likely creating a split in the relationship.
Anytime you control, you expect, you want, or you desire something – the situation will backfire. What you once thought was a perfect situation and you want more, will become imperfect.
Ok, so that is the bad news – that everything shifts in negative way when your driving needs for change are lust, greed, desire and material gain.
What’s the good news? The Law of Division is something that we create. The truth is that it is really temporary, but the mind plays tricks on us thinking its an eternity due to the “lack of wholeness” that we create inside our heads when things just don’t go as expected or don’t conform to the way we think.
This is why we see ourselves as different from others and want them to change to be more like us. This is why we fight with others, because it’s so difficult to see things from someone else’s viewpoint.
This is where you need to learn to accept your situation when things don’t go your way. Acceptance is not resistance – it’s not fighting back. It is simply taking in, not succumbing, to what went wrong. Use the situation to make yours better.
Relationships can last. You don’t have to create separation through expectations. Just accept the other person for who they are and you will see more togetherness.
Get up when things fail. Accept failure and don’t resist it. Use the failure to make yourself a better person – use it to fuel positive change.
You want to know the secret to overcoming the Law of Division? You need to see, act, and do as if everything is One. You need to train your mind to remove fences from backyards dividing properties, you need to remove prejudices from your head showing how superior you are from others. You need to resist change, let things be as is and go with the flow.
You need to remove all barriers, boundaries and walls from your life. It is only when you start to see things as a whole, that division doesn’t exist and unconditional love increases towards life events, situations and others.