How do you break away from past experiences and move on?
This has been a constant source of pain for many and it’s time that we just destroy any ideas of “clinging” once and for all.
Let’s explore what you are clinging on to in the first place. In many cases it is a false pretense of joy derived by putting yourself in a situation that you really were not supposed to be in the first place. There are few things with what I just wrote – read it again and let’s break down the words further:
- False pretense of joy – this is generally because we are expecting the object that we are holding on to make us happy. This is why it is a false pretense. Objects and people can never make us happy because they are beyond our control. Look at history – even the largest and strongest empires have fallen with trying to control others. It just doesn’t work. We can only accept others and situations as it is.
- A situation or relationship you were never meant to be in – this is one that requires deep introspection. Are you in a relationship just because you can’t do things alone? Are you just buying things to get over your depressed state? We remain in situations that we know we really shouldn’t be in because we just don’t listen to ourselves. We can’t change others or situations. That’s an impossible feat. We can only change how we react.
Look, in both the points above there are some key things you need to keep in mind. 1. You are the creator of your own destiny – no one can ever tell you what you are supposed to do or are destined to achieve. 2. You need to just listen to the your gut and understand that not every object (thing or person) is really owned by you. 3. The journey toward the discovery of You will be achieved free of objects of association.
The way to live life without attachments is not expect anything from any object or thing. I know in this crazy world we live in that this may be extremely difficult. We want others to pick up the phone when we call. We want others to give us a timely response to an text message. We want our significant others to be there for us. We want cars, watches, clothes to last forever.
The truth with setting expectations is that there is a chance they will not be met. You need to associate with objects and people without expectations. Give to others without receiving. Call people up without expecting them to pick up the phone. Expect others not to like you. Don’t expect all relationships to be compatible.
You need to be practical these days. Don’t depend on others. Be yourself. Be happy with what you have – and remember those things you have that will give you immense joy are things you can’t see, hear, hold, smell, or touch.